The blogosphere has been abuzz about all the sex The Bachelor isn’t having.
His nonmarital abstinence is “pretty much a major buzz kill,” she wrote. Not sleeping with the people you date is a big risk, she implied, and Lowe should have premarital sex for the sake of his marriage.
To which I write this:
- Odds are good that characteristics of a successful relationship far more fundamental than “good sex” are missing if a couple is unwilling to work for compatibility between the sheets if compatibility between the sheets isn’t intuitive.
- Working for compatibility requires patience. Chastity, “a decision to die to self and to selflessly love (or to die trying),” is great practice.
- How bad would it suck if wedding night sex was about “giving in to temptation?”
- That your brand new spouse doesn’t know how to “press your buttons” isn’t a problem if you and he or she are willing to communicate, to learn, and to practice.
- The big moment isn’t what happens in bed on your wedding night. It’s what happens on the altar at your wedding.
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Click here to read what Fischer wrote about Sean Lowe’s doomed marriage.