How to have fun flyin’ solo at a wedding.

The stack of save-the-dates and wedding invitations that covered a corner of my desk at home has begun to turn into the inevitable: actual weddings. Last night, I watched while a friend of 13 years exchanged vows with the man who became her husband. I walked afterward to the hall where we would celebrate.

But — unlike most of the rest of the guests — I walked alone into the hall. Where couples would dance and dream of or remember their own weddings. Where husbands would return to the buffet for seconds for their wives. And where I, regardless of having no date with whom to enjoy it, would have the best time.

It is natural as a single adult to be bummed about being alone at a wedding (particularly if you’re a single adult who intends someday to get married). But it’s entirely possible to have fun flyin’ solo at a reception. Here are a few ways to do it:

1. Live tweet it.

Like this:

What a first kiss can tell you.

This is a guest post written by Wendy van Eyck, who blogs at

blog profileMy first kiss happened in the rain.

We were standing in a forest with 100-year old pines spreading a canopy over our heads. Water dripped from the branches onto my pink umbrella as I lent in to taste his lips.

Thirty of our friends and family stood beneath their own umbrellas, unaware that this was our first kiss. The pastor said, “I now pronounce you man and wife.”

At 27, I had waited a long time for that first kiss. I had wondered what it would be like, what it would tell me about the man I had just married.

Over the years I had flipped through magazines and seen articles like “5 things you can learn from a first kiss (and one you can’t)” and “Kissing can tell you if someone is right for you.”

It seemed like so much value was placed on this first locking of lips.

So what did my first kiss tell me?

It told me a lot less then the magazines led me to expect.

Q and A: How soon do you tell your date you’re saving sex for marriage?

The Q: “With our society as it is today and everyone expecting sex outside of marriage, how (or how soon) do you let somebody you’ve started seeing know that you practice chastity (and that therefore, you abstain from nonmarital sex)? -a reader


The A: How I tell a guy I’m saving sex has varied, and — let’s face it — Google usually beats me to it. But if an interested guy hasn’t Googled me, that I’m saving sex inevitably comes up when he learns that I’m a writer and asks about what I write. How I disclose that I practice chastity, however, has more flexibility than when I do it.

When do I disclose it? ImmediatelyHere’s why:

Live in or near San Diego? Mark your calendar. I’ll show up at St. Brigid’s young adult Bible study next month to chat about chastity. See below for details. #GETEXCITED.

Date: September 24, 2014
Time: 7 p.m.
Event: Young Adult Bible Study
Topic: "Practicing Chastity in a Culture That Says We Shouldn't"
Venue: St. Brigid Catholic Church
Location: 4735 Cass Street
San Diego, CA
Public: Public