‘I want to lose my virginity.’

Syndicated columnist Carolyn Hax responded in a recent column to the following letter, which she received from a 19-year-old woman who has never had sex before:

“I am a 19-year-old freshman in college. I have decided to lose my virginity soon, obviously in a safe way while using protection. Is it okay to not tell the guy I’m a virgin? It’s come up before and it seems to bother guys. I also hate the idea of someone knowing they were my first; I (irrationally, I know) feel like it gives them power over me. I sort of want to get this over with in a sort of one-night-stand kind of way.”

These are my thoughts on that:

The letter’s writer’s decision to lose her virginity is rooted in her resistance to divulging her virginity. She doesn’t want to be a virgin so that she won’t have to tell somebody she is. But that turns what she wrote into a catch 22. … How? Click here to read the rest of my thoughts in a post on Quiner’s Diner.

Arleen the virgin gets a book, ‘#JaneTheVirgin’ gets a show.

jane the virginFrom where I stood, the banner blocked the American flag that hung at the center of Citrus Park Mall in Tampa. It showcased ‘Jane the Virgin,’ the latest in an influx of TV shows inspired by sexual inexperience. It would premier, the banner said, on Oct. 13.

First, I asked what any virgin beneath that banner would: “WHERE’S MY BANNER?” Then, I marked my calendar.

The show, about a a virgin who — as a result of a doctor’s distraction — got artificially inseminated when she should have gotten a Pap smear, premiered as promised on Monday, and (spoilers to follow), I watched it. Here’s how I sum it up:

3 Lessons and 2 Tips from Haley Stewart

HaleyBioPic13 Lessons and 2 Tips is a series of interviews in which some of my favorite people (and probably some of yours) share three lessons they’ve learned by being married, plus two tips for single people.

This edition features Haley Stewart, a bookish, somewhat crunchy, hipster mama of three lively children. She’s a writer, speaker, blogger, and Catholic convert.

Haley is married to “Daniel of the big beard and the green thumb.” She’s also a homeschooling, bacon-eating, coffee-drinking southern girl with a flair for liturgical feasts and a penchant for bright red lipstick. I am super pumped she agreed to share three lessons and two tips with us today.

In or near New York City? Mark your calendars. I’ll discuss practicing chastity in a culture that says we shouldn’t at this event for adults in their 20s, 30s, and 40s.

Date: December 12, 2014
Time: 6:30 p.m.
Event: Catholic Fellowship of NYC
Sponsor: Catholic Fellowship of NYC
Venue: TBA
Location: New York, NY

Chastity Is For Lovers T-Shirts: BUY ONE, WIN ONE and FREE SHIPPING?!

If you haven’t ordered your Chastity Is for Lovers t-shirt yet, DO. IT. Today. For real. Here’s why:

1. Anybody who orders one in any size and either color between now and 11:59 p.m. PDT today (a.k.a. 2:59 a.m. EDT Oct. 11) WILL NOT BE CHARGED FOR SHIPPING. (The shirts are $15 each and shipping is ordinarily $5. Today shipping is $0.00.)

2. Anybody who orders one in any size and either color between now and 11:59 p.m. PDT today (a.k.a. 2:59 a.m. EDT Oct. 11) will also be entered to win a second shirt in any size and either color .

I’ll ship ‘em to you tomorrow (10/11/14). Two winners if fewer than 20 people purchase, five winners if more than 20 people purchase. Tell your friends (and/or WIN ONE OF THEM A SHIRT.)

Click here to shop.