Q and A: What’s a date (and what isn’t)?

The Q: “I’ve been asking different people what they define as ‘dating’ versus ‘hanging out.’ Everyone has entirely different answers. What should count as a date and what shouldn’t?” -B.T.


The A: The short version of my answer is that it’s a date if you both decide that you want it to be. But here’s the long version:

If you’d like a signed copy of ‘Chastity Is For Lovers’…

my and my bookI’m pumped to report that signed copies of Chastity is for Lovers: Single, Happy, and (Still) a Virgin are now available in my online store.

The book, which is a first place winner of a 2015 Catholic Press Award, is, according to one reviewer, “one of the best books I’ve read regarding what chastity is, who is called to live it out, and how it can be lived out.” According to another, it is “well worth reading, for man or woman, young or old.”

Who needs Chastity Is For Lovers?

Why women need good men in a world where Tinder exists

On Friday, a friend sent me a text while she swiped left and right for awhile on Tinder. The app connects users to close-by potential dates, which is why what my friend found there that morning alarmed her.


She stopped swiping when she saw it: the familiar face of a man last active on the app a half hour earlier — a smiling male acquaintance.

A smiling male acquaintance who has a girlfriend.

On the Dignity and Vocation of Women

Sr. Helena Burns has written: “God did not command men to dominate women. He predicted it as the sad consequence of original sin.” So why do many cringe when Gen. 3:16 or Eph. 5:21-33 comes up?

Probably because lots of the people who discuss them don’t know what the Church actually says about women, men, and marriage. But Mulieris Dignitatem can fix that. It is a letter written by St. John Paul II to the Church, originally published on Aug. 15, 1988. It’s also known as On the Dignity and Vocation of Women.

A pornography discussion we have to have.

Last week, the Catching Foxes podcast released its eighth episode: “Authentically Honest About Pornography.” If you listen to one podcast episode in your lifetime, I implore you to make it this one.

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I’m fairly certain that for two men to discuss this so honestly, so publicly, is unprecedented. What I like about the episode most is what hosts Gomer and Luke start, and what they model.