Q and A: What should we do when we’re attracted to each other?

The Q: What advice would you give to a young Christian woman when she’s attracted to a guy? And what advice would you give her when a guy has asked her on a date?

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The A: The short version? READ MY BOOK. ;) Keep reading for the long version:

When a woman is attracted to a man, the words of advice that come to mind are as follows (And — for the record — I’d say the same stuff to a guy):

A sex talk in a city near you?!

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Theology on Tap in STL.

In or near Tampa, FL or Athens, GA? PREPARE TO MARK YOUR CALENDAR. (If you aren’t, read on anway, ’cause I need a favor.)

I’ve booked events where you are, and I want to see you there. Here’s where I’ll be:

SPRING HILL, FL: I’ll give a talk about practicing chastity in a culture that calls it crazy at 6 p.m. Friday (2/27/15) at Connexion, an event hosted by the young adult ministry in the Family Life Conference Center (which says “Welcome to Northcliffe” on it in giant letters) at Northcliffe Baptist Church, 10515 Northcliffe Blvd., Spring Hill.

What I learned about God by giving a sex talk to teens.

I couldn’t see their faces. So I smiled at the silhouettes of the sixth through twelfth graders who sat silently on the bleachers while I stood in the spotlight.

As a chastity speaker (and writer), my target audience never has been teens or tweens. But I stood last Wednesday morning in the mostly dark gymnatorium at a private, Protestant Christian school — the same gym in which I graduated from fifth, eighth and twelfth grades, 18, 15, and 11 years ago, respectively.

And in my head, I kept saying “this is weird.” Weird to be in this room, in front of these kids, on this morning, doing what I would not have guessed I’d ever do when during my eight years as a student there, I sat in those same bleachers.

When I got the invitation to speak, I was totally game. I was honored. Moved, even, because I’m Catholic and we’re talking about a school that circulated anti-Catholic Bob Jones and Jack Chick literature until my parents and I asked them not to. 

…There is an urgent need for the entire Christian community to recover an appreciation of the virtue of chastity. The integrating and liberating function of this virtue should be emphasized by a formation of the heart, which presents the Christian understanding of sexuality as a source of genuine freedom, happiness and the fulfilment of our fundamental and innate human vocation to love.

Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI

5 important lessons to learn from ‘Old Fashioned’

WHO DIDN’T SEE FIFTY SHADES THIS WEEKEND? This girl! I, did, however, see the film Old Fashioned – a PG-13 alternative strategically released the same weekend. I didn’t hate it.

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The movie is about Clay (Rik Swartzwelder) and Amber (Elizabeth Ann Roberts), whose worlds collide when her truck runs out of gas in his neighborhood. There, with her gas tank as her only guide, she — romantically albeit unrealistically — decides to rent an apartment.

The apartment belongs to Clay, the quiet owner of the antiques shop beneath it. She thinks he’s a prude. He thinks he’s prudent. (And yes, there is a difference). She’s flirty. He doesn’t sleep with the women he dates. The plot thickens while their attraction to each other kindles a unique relationship and their pasts threaten to extinguish it.

I won’t tell you how it ends. But I will tell you what we who watch it can learn from it: