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CHASTITY IS FOR MEN | Jason Evert edition.

[callout]This post is one in a series designed to combat the belief that it’s “impossible” for men to save sex (or sex from now on) for marriage. Each edition features a man who was a virgin at marriage, who proves that belief wrong, who uses his experience to encourage both men and women who practice chastity.[/callout]

This edition features Jason Evert, an author and speaker I first met at a gala when I was a teen. I am grateful all these years later to call him a friend and colleague (and for his sharing his wisdom [and sometimes his platform] as I’ve launched my ministry).

Jason, who got married at age 27 and is now 39, is gracious to help prove that chastity IS for men: Continue reading “CHASTITY IS FOR MEN | Jason Evert edition.”

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Want to find true intimacy? Then drop the act.

Relationships are hard. This is not new information. But I propose that part of what makes them hard is not the adjustment and disclosure that authenticity demands of us. Instead, it’s our relentless resistance to adjusting and disclosing.

I bet Donald Miller would agree. Over the weekend, I finished reading his latest book, Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy. In it, Miller discusses a painful disruption of his life (which started with the demise of an engagement), his later relationship with the woman he’d actually marry, and how his experiences resulted over time in an ability to pursue what he never had pursued before: true intimacy. Continue reading “Want to find true intimacy? Then drop the act.”

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On agape and sex.

Last week, after my third sex essay printed in the Tampa Bay Times, I received an email from Dr. Lodovico Balducci — a faithful Times reader who has responded to each sex essay I’ve written for the paper since 2009.

He sent the letter to the editor that he submitted, which printed in part this week. With his permission, I’ve pasted the full version of his letter below. I’m grateful for it and hopeful you’ll find his points about agape and sex as insightful as I did: Continue reading “On agape and sex.”

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Chastity and me on live TV.

In case you missed it: Last week, I spent part of a morning talking with Jay Fadden and Fr. Robert Reed about chastity on an episode of “This is the Day,” the live talk show they host on CatholicTV.

If you’d like to watch, click here. My interview starts 8:23 into the episode. Enjoy!

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When telling kids to abstain from sex is irresponsible.

[callout]Yesterday, the Tampa Bay Times published my third sex essay. Here are a few excerpts from it, followed by a link you can click to read it in its entirety. Like it? Share it with others. Grateful![/callout]

Over the summer, an Esquire post’s headline made a bold proclamation: ABSTINENCE CAUSES LASTING SEXUAL CONFUSION. I’m not worried. A lot of people think I should be.

I am a 29-year-old virgin, abstinent outside marriage because I, a practicing Catholic, practice the virtue of chastity. But there’s a reason the headline doesn’t have to cause concern in someone who hasn’t had sex:

It isn’t true. Continue reading “When telling kids to abstain from sex is irresponsible.”