How to have fun flyin’ solo at a wedding.

The stack of save-the-dates and wedding invitations that covered a corner of my desk at home has begun to turn into the inevitable: actual weddings. Last night, I watched while a friend of 13 years exchanged vows with the man who became her husband. I walked afterward to the hall where we would celebrate.

But — unlike most of the rest of the guests — I walked alone into the hall. Where couples would dance and dream of or remember their own weddings. Where husbands would return to the buffet for seconds for their wives. And where I, regardless of having no date with whom to enjoy it, would have the best time.

It is natural as a single adult to be bummed about being alone at a wedding (particularly if you’re a single adult who intends someday to get married). But it’s entirely possible to have fun flyin’ solo at a reception. Here are a few ways to do it:

1. Live tweet it.

Like this:

Or this:

Or this:

2. Enjoy the food.

Really enjoy it. Buffet? Pile it on. Still hungry? Opt for seconds. Eaters who are timid about it on dates don’t have to be when there isn’t a date. (Though they also don’t have to be when there is.) Somebody paid a lot of money for — let’s face it — more food than all the people at the wedding could eat in a night. Dig in. Take a breather. Repeat.

3. Find the cutest boy at the wedding; dance with him. 

But ask his parents first.

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 How else can one have fun flyin’ solo at a wedding?

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  • Jen @ Jumping in Puddles

    hahaha… this made me laugh!! 🙂 I also say, have fun getting all fancy!! Which, I can tell that you totally did! Weddings may be some people’s ONLY time to get dressed up and have fun!

    I will for sure keeping these in mind when I am at a few weddings this winter. 🙂

    • Arleen Spenceley

      YES. That’s a great one.. I did enjoy gettin’ fancy, and I always do!

  • Joe Geisler

    In Austin, the Catholics mostly know each other at weddings, so we don’t really consider that we’re going solo. Although I usually just ask people to dance, if there’s actually swing music and not awful non-swing music to dance to.

    • Arleen Spenceley


  • Episteme

    Back when I was still invited to weddings (at 34, male, and perpetually single, I’ve grown used to sheepish apologies nowadays about being on the cut list from even close friends’ weddings — I haven’t been invited to any in about five years), I would totally steal babies and toddlers. The little girls were always smitten with me in ways that their adult counterparts never are, and the little boys made for great partners in crime!