Why you don’t need to be a virgin to practice chastity.

In a comment beneath a chastity post I once wrote, a reader left a disconcerting note: “I’m not a virgin, so I guess I can’t practice chastity.” The comment hurt my heart.

The person who wrote it had dismissed chastity as irrelevant as a result of sexual experience — a sign of a misconception of chastity that says it isn’t designed for all of us. But chastity is a moral virtue, which is acquired, in part, by “human effort.” You don’t have to be a virgin to practice it. Here’s why:

In or near Gainesville, Tampa or Naples? Let’s meet up.

In or near Gainesville, Tampa or Naples, FL? PREPARE TO MARK YOUR CALENDAR. (If you aren’t in or near those cities, read on anyway, ’cause I need a favor from ya…)

I’ve booked events where you are, and I want to see you there. Here’s where I’ll be:

GAINESVILLE, FL: I’ll chat with the Catholic Gators about practicing chastity in a culture that calls it crazy after the 5:30 p.m. Mass on Thursday, April 16, at St. Augustine’s, 1738, W University Ave., Gainesville. Chastity Is For Lovers will be available for sale for $14 (credit or cash).

ODESSA, FL: I’ll chat with the young adults who attend Spirits and Spirituality about practicing chastity in a culture that calls it crazy at 7 p.m. April 20 at the Wild Rover, 8740 N Mobley Road, Odessa. Chastity Is For Lovers will be available for sale for $14 (credit or cash).

CHASTITY IS FOR MEN | Jason Evert edition.

This post is one in a series designed to combat the belief that it’s “impossible” for men to save sex (or sex from now on) for marriage. Each edition features a man who was a virgin at marriage, who proves that belief wrong, who uses his experience to encourage both men and women who practice chastity.

This edition features Jason Evert, an author and speaker I first met at a gala when I was a teen. I am grateful all these years later to call him a friend and colleague (and for his sharing his wisdom [and sometimes his platform] as I’ve launched my ministry).

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Jason, who got married at age 27 and is now 39, is gracious to help prove that chastity IS for men:

Chastity and me on live TV.

In case you missed it: Last week, I spent part of a morning talking with Jay Fadden and Fr. Robert Reed about chastity on an episode of “This is the Day,” the live talk show they host on CatholicTV.

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If you’d like to watch, click here. My interview starts 8:23 into the episode. Enjoy!

When telling kids to abstain from sex is irresponsible.

Yesterday, the Tampa Bay Times published my third sex essay. Here are a few excerpts from it, followed by a link you can click to read it in its entirety. Like it? Share it with others. Grateful!

Over the summer, an Esquire post’s headline made a bold proclamation: ABSTINENCE CAUSES LASTING SEXUAL CONFUSION. I’m not worried. A lot of people think I should be.

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I am a 29-year-old virgin, abstinent outside marriage because I, a practicing Catholic, practice the virtue of chastity. But there’s a reason the headline doesn’t have to cause concern in someone who hasn’t had sex:

It isn’t true.